Becoming a Great Parent
Don’t you wish that sometimes you could literally walk into your kitchen and create a recipe that would turn you into a great parent instantly? The kids are driving you crazy, so you run to the kitchen real quick to whip up patience pie. You just found marker on the couch and want to throw something, but instead you take a quick sip of calm down Kool-Aid. How much simpler would life be if you had those ingredients inside your pantry?
Unfortunately, I can’t give you anything magical that makes you a great parent. The truth is that becoming a great parent is anything but simple. Great parents are not made over night, they are made over time. However, in this blog I want to give you 3 key ingredients that when put together create a recipe for becoming a great parent.
The first ingredient to becoming a great parent is self-awareness. Self-awareness is one of the hardest things to do because you have to identify and come to terms with your weaknesses just as much as your strengths. If you struggle with anger and irritability, it’s important to be cognizant of this to prevent you from losing your anger on your children. Do you struggle with giving encouragement? Do you struggle with verbalizing your emotions? Do you struggle with gossip? It’s important to truly look at yourself in the mirror and identify these weaknesses. Kids learn from role-modeling more than any other type of teaching. Psalm 51:3 says, “For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.” Proverbs 20:5 states, “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.”
- Personal Growth
Self-awareness is a great first step, but by itself it’s not enough. Once you’ve identified your weaknesses, you can’t cover them back up. You need to confront them head on by engaging in things that grow you, challenge you, and change you as a person. Find a mentor, meet with your pastor, read a book, engage in a bible study, connect with a small group, or see a therapist. Do what it takes to invest in becoming a better person. 1 Timothy 4:13-16 reads, “Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to exhortation, to teaching. Do not neglect the gift you have…practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress. Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers.” Psalms 51:10-12 reads, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”
The last key ingredient is dedication. Being a parent is hard work. The easiest thing to do is to do nothing. Dedicate yourself to grow as a person and as a parent. Model to your kids what it looks like to always seek to better yourself. 2 Chronicles 15:7 says, “But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.” Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Being a perfect parent is impractical. However, always striving to be a better person and parent is obtainable and worthwhile. You deserve a better you and so do your kids.