Disciplining Children

Disciplining Children

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the roads, and when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:4-7

One of the most important aspects of disciplining your children is to teach, exhibit and train them to love. John 13:35 says, “All men will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.” Love is the beginning and fuel for obedience, prayer and lasting relationships with others. It is also, by the way, our source for confidence and security.

Bruce Narramore has this to say about the importance of training your children in love, “We should remember that if children are not able to love, virtues such as obedience, and many others are not mentioned here, will take on a false superficial taint. Conformity unaccompanied by love is not obedience. It is simply giving into fear. And prayer without love is not communication with God. It is simply another habit or routine.”

So, where do you start?

  1. You love the Lord with all your heart. Be genuine…Love is better caught than taught.
  2. Everything you do (your aim) – your actions, your speech, and even your discipline should come from a place of love. You should never discipline out of anger but from a place of love with the goal of shepherding the heart.
  3. Not only should you be the example, have your goal in disciplining be about shepherding the heart, but we should talk about how Christ comes into our life and begins to mold us to love like He did. Our commitment should be maintained every hour of every day in every situation to shoot for the target of raising children to be like Christ.